Browsing Archive: December, 2009
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Thursday, December 31, 2009,
Yes!! It is official! We are going to be marching/rallying on the Captial in DC for our children. It is time to stop blogging, talking and complaining about the sad state of our family court system. The Rally is set for May 18 - 20th. Remember, you can come for either day or both. It is important that we take a stand against a government that has turned its back on our children. Please check out Children Have Rights Too, or you can send me an email at ffazc.org@gmail.com and I will be... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Wednesday, December 30, 2009,
*what is in bold are my word and what is in regular text is the email Kathleen sent to me today
kathy Miholich to me, Adam
show details Dec 29
Adam had no objection to them wearing the shoes you purchased.
Then you didn't look at the message that you sent me. In it you said that Adam said if he deemed them appropriate he would let them wear the shoes. Maybe because you are a social worker and not a trained psychologist you do not realize that this is a common tactic of the abuser.. wording...
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Posted by Lisa Abrams on Tuesday, December 29, 2009,
While we are all up in arms over this girls' death, I would like to remind everyone that her guardian was living with a sex offender!!! Why are we upset by this? Fathers are screwing their kids all over this country and we look the other way. Is it because Leggs isn't a Judge or some other prominent member of society. Let's be clear, if you have enough money you can do whatever you want in this country. Sarah's death needs to highlight the fact that we must have tougher laws for sexual ...
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Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 28, 2009,
My question is why were these children alone with the pediatrician?? I was always in the room with my girls' now, I don't know about now with their father...
Lewes, Delaware – I’m still on vacation, but we got this story in an email and I had to post it. On Wednesday, pediatrician Dr. Earl B. Bradley, 56, was arrested. The state attorney general’s office said that Dr. Bradley has been using his private practice, BayBees Pediatrics, to rape and molest as many as 100 children over the las... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 28, 2009,
Do you think any of this information would make any difference to Ruth Hilliard or other judges like her? I don't think so. There is a plethura of evidence that her actions of taking children away from primary parents and forcing them to live with the abusive parent is harmful to the children. yet, does she change? No. Does she provide safeguards in her orders in case she s wrong? No. What is her, and other judges like her, agenda???
Fathers: Do you want full custody of your child withou... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 28, 2009,
kathy Miholich to Adam, me
show details 8:34 am
I talked with Adam about the shoes and he said that thei girls can wear whateverf appropriate shoes they select for school.
Once again re the fees...the COURT ordered who should pay what, not I...so it remains 50/50.
email from kathleen Miholich, who is the "they" Adam and Gina or the girls? What he said will make it possible for him to claim that the Sketcher's Twinkle Toe Shoes are inappropriate - who does he hurt by doing this??? Let's see...
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Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 28, 2009,
Yet another death due to Domestic Violence. I would like to say thank you to all of the judges who have failed us this year. May the new year find you in the unemployment lines while judges who actually care about our safety take your place. I would also like to point out for all of the judges who have used a form of PAS to take children away from a caring and protective parent. Good job! Your are f... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Sunday, December 27, 2009,
I first learned about PAS, Parental Alienation Syndrome during my divorce. I would hear lawyers argue this syndrome over and over again in custody battles. This syndrome hit a nerve, being four credits shy of a Bachelors Degree in Psychology, I never read anything about this syndrome in any of my studies. So, I went back to my psychology books to re-read information maybe I skipped and still, I found nothing about PAS. Then continuing on with research, I found the following information which ... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Sunday, December 27, 2009,
I remember back in the fifties, from history and speaking with family members, that when a girl/woman became pregnant the girl and boy had to get married. Think Peggy Sue Got Married,anyway I had thought that times had changed. With the advent of the sixties and the whole sexual revolution, women were supposed to be able to have sex without being labeled a whore for it. Then of course, came the eighties and the whole Murphy Brown and Dan Quayle argument over the show glorifying unwed mothe... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Saturday, December 26, 2009,
More and more there are articles concerning PAS and children being removed from their mother's households and forced to live with their fathers. The father's claim that the mother is brainwashing the children to hate him. I have a problem with this, if you haven't already guessed by my previous blogs! On Children Have Rights Too, we recently discussed what do you do when the child you have been attempting to protect suddenly sides with the abuser. The funny thing is, when the child start... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Saturday, December 26, 2009,
copied from Dastardly Dads:
Dastardly Dads Why the hell did dad DAVID ELLIOTT have custody of his 11-year-old son? And who gave it to him?
Family Services has been investigating this custodial father for 8 years over concerns regarding lack of supervision, physical abuse, parental drug use, and lack of household necessities. The most recent contact was only a month ago. Yet all were "unsubstantiated." I'm convinced these so-called investigators are deaf, dumb, and blind.
Although she had ... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Saturday, December 26, 2009,
News programs are doing more and more exposes on mothers leaving their children. Mother's have turned into something horrible, we're supposed to be the ultimate in love and forgiveness... no matter what, we always stand by our children. Yet, maybe that's what some mothers think they are doing by leaving. I have often wondered if Adam would stop hurting the girls' if I let them hate me. I read an article on Domestic Violence by Proxy and I realized that that is what Adam is doing. That is... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Thursday, December 24, 2009,
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Posted by Lisa Abrams on Tuesday, December 22, 2009,
copied from mothersarevanishing.blogspot.com
Seven years ago there were a lot of preparations surrounding December 24. Preparing for Christmas, the baking, shopping, wrapping, and decorating as well as preparing for birth. Christmas, the birth of Jesus, a celebration, and the birth of another, a first son was just around the corner. It was a busy time of last minute scheduling, gifts to be picked up and delivered, as well as tending to p... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Tuesday, December 22, 2009,
From Randi James:
I cannot imagine anything worse than a child having the courage to come forward about sexual abuse, only to be disbelieved and placed into further contact or "reunification therapy" with the offending person (see The Parental Alienation Tactic: Punishing Parents, Punishing Children) .
Why do we teach children about good touch and bad touch?
Why are teachers and others mandatory reporters?
I'm starting to believe the goal is ... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Tuesday, December 22, 2009,
Over the summer, the girls were riding in the car when they proceeded to tell me that they knew what a boys private parts were called. I said, "Really, what?" and they said "A penis and they're silly looking." So I asked when they had seen a boys private parts. The girls told me that they had seen them when they were in line at school to use the bathroom. Then D announcounced that she had seen her father's penis. I figured right away that this was a set up from Adam. It's the way he ope... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Tuesday, December 22, 2009,
Thanks for your response Lisa. I will meet with Adam and discuss the medical insurance issue. Adam left me a message saying that the girls had a ballet recital last week and that he was not informed of or invited to. Can you clarify that information for me please? Thank you Kathleen An email that I received from Kathleen Miholich today. Kathleen is the parent coordinator in my case. We began seeing Kathleen last April and nothing has changed. Adam keeps lobbing out complaints and accusatio... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 21, 2009,
From Randi James:And Warshack isn't the only one who does this. But as parental alienation is a magical syndrome/disorder, anything is accepted. Just tell your paid parental alienation professional that your child has been "turned against you," or "brainwashed, "and that is all the evidence he or she needs; however, there must be a divorce or visitation/custody proceeding underway ( even though I have also read that parental alienation occurs in intact families, and many other situations) For wh... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 21, 2009,
Small-Penis Syndrome Common
Paltry-Penis Perception Plagues Many Normal Men
June 1, 2007 - Eighty-five percent of women are pleased with their partner's penis proportions -- yet many normal men suffer "small-penis syndrome," urologists report.
Small-penis syndrome is the anxiety of thinking one's penis is too small -- even though it isn't. It's a totally different condition from having a truly tiny tinkler, a condition...
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Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 21, 2009,
Some children experience " high sexual urges in early infancy. " "There is good reason to believe that most, if not all, children have the capacity to reach orgasm at the time they are born." Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse .Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 15) - I think I am going to be sick!!! So, tell me Gardner is the child who is being breast fed actually attempting to sexually seduce the mother?Children are naturally sexual and may initiate... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 21, 2009,
Slain Gilbert baby showed signs of earlier abuse
by Nathan Gonzalez - Dec. 18, 2009 09:05 AM The Arizona Republic The autopsy on a 2-month-old Gilbert girl who died as a result of a suspected beating by her father showed the victim had earlier injuries. Lilliana Martinez had five healing rib fractures on the left side along the spine, and two on each side of the upper chest, according to a report released this week by Gilbert police. Almost from the beginning, Gilbert police, firefighters and doct... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 21, 2009,
I was speaking to the girls today for my two second phone call. It's two seconds because Adam makes them hang up the phone. Dr. Kim Wright wonders why R is so desperate for a cell phone, well maybe it's because she wants to be able to talk to me. Adam doctored a tape almost two years ago and used it against me. Due to that tape, Brnovich gave him temporary custody and both she and Hilliard gave him permission to listen to the phone calls. News Flash! Listening to the phone calls is a for... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Sunday, December 20, 2009,
So, last Wednesday I had that impromptu meeting with Kathleen Miholich, the parent coordinator, I think that anyone reading my blogs is aware that I do not like Kathleen. She mentioned how viscious my blogs and comments are. Yes, she is right. I am not nice in what I write about her. The thing is that from the beginning, Kathleen has not been unbiased., at least in my opinion. It took me two months to get a hold of her after Hilliard's order came out. I left countless messages letting her ... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Sunday, December 20, 2009,
Every year I watch the Today show to see what the new fashion season will bring us. Every year they say that a particular color is the new "black." Well, I have to say that after foraging my way through the Family Court System, I have discovered that calling a woman crazy is tantamount to calling her a whore back in the day. When I was growing up, Happy Days was a big tv show. I remember this particular episode when Richie meets a divorced woman (I have to give a shout out to Leslie Charle... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Sunday, December 20, 2009,
Between a Rock and a Hard Place: The System Sends Mixed Messages to Abuse Victims
Do you stay, or do you leave?
If you haven’t been a victim of abuse, or a victim of the legal system, you may not be able to understand why this is even posed as a question.
Of course you should leave!
I mean, who deserves to get beat up and/or sexually assaulted in their own home…regularly…or even occasionally. Even as careful as you could try to be to make sure everything is perfect, so as not to... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Friday, December 18, 2009,
yesterday both Kim and Kathleen told me that I was misinformed about Dr. Ronn Lavit. They said that he's been targeted for quite awhile by people claiming that he's part of the FAther's Rights Movement. If he truly is a victim, I would like to apologise. Unfortunately, Dr. Lavit it is being touted that you are a major player in the father's rights movement and that you have training seminars for the judges and such on Domestic Violence and parental alienation syndrome. From what I have se... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Friday, December 18, 2009,
Yesterday I had an inpromptu meeting with the parent coordinator, Kathleen Miholich. During this meeting, in which we again argued over whether or not I am allowed to use the children's medical insurance provided by Adam for the children!! Adam Marc James refuses to let Dr. Wright bill his insurance if I take the girls to a session with her. He says it's not in their best interest. Really, Adam, it's not in their best interest for us to get past this and learn to deal with each other? Oh... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Wednesday, December 16, 2009,
I just finished reading an article by Garland Waller that was on the Kansas Mother's for Justice widget on this website. In it Garland Waller recounts a question she posed to Dr. Richard Gardner, noted Father's Rights Supporter, about what to say to your child when they tell you that their father, or mother, is molesting them.
“What would a good mother do,” I, Garland Waller, asked Dr. Gardner two years ago when interviewing him for the documentary, “if her child told her of sexual... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 14, 2009,
So, in another week of information passed around on facebook, the internet etc. I am left wondering why no one seems to notice that almost every day a father, or stepfather, continues to abuse and/or kill their children andyet no one is even phased by it. Yet, there are many shows being dedicated to Casey Anthony, the Florida woman who allegedly killed her daughter. Hell, Law and Order: SVU even had an episode based on the story, with the usual L & O twist. Day after day, I blog to people a... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Monday, December 14, 2009,
TOPEKA | Paperwork was supposed to be all that remained before Marilyn and Jim Dilley became their 4-year-old foster son’s legal guardians.
The Olathe couple had been foster parents to more than a dozen children over five years without any problems. They already had adopted one child, and their caseworker said adopting a second would not be a problem.
Then the boy — whom the Dilleys call Jack — got a new caseworker. One day last fall, the caseworker suddenly took Jack away. Marilyn ... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Sunday, December 13, 2009,
I am talking with several people on several sites that deal with PAS and DV. More and more people are getting interested in having a rally in DC this october to force lawmakers to face the issues of our Family Court Problems head on. If anyone out there reads this and is interested, please contact ffazc.org@gmail.com or chrights@gmail.com and let us know what you think? Anyone interested in sharing their story? Participating? It's time to put action to our words! Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Sunday, December 13, 2009,
Sadly all I want from Ruth Hilliard is to think logically and realize how absurd their claims were. In a few months, we will be in front of you again. You will undoubtably be mad at me for my web site and decide to use your position to punish me.. yet, I hope that you realize that you are punishing two little girls. I hope that you will look at yourself in the mirror and find some sense of integrity that you decide to set aside your personal agenda and beliefs and listen to what is being ... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Sunday, December 13, 2009,
So, yesterday I took my children to a bday party. The mother told me that Adam had called her to give her my number b/c I would be the one to bring them to the party. I was so encouraged by what she said. I really thought that we had turned a corner in our battles. Silnce school began, Adam has refused to pass along birthday party invitations to me for when the girls' are with me. I have mentioned it a time or two on this site. I have talked with kathleen Miholich and Kim Wright, the p... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Sunday, December 13, 2009,
Who am I? That's a question I haven't asked myself for quite some time. Many things, (mostly bad), have happened in my life. There are so many that it would take me two whole lifetimes to type about it....
Of all the bad things that happened to me, I think that finding out that the one girl I thought I loved said that it was all out of pity. Everything; the one night that we shared at ClubXtreme and all the love I thought we shared was all one big freaking joke...
Enough on that mistake, le... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Friday, December 11, 2009,
Today I found out that Gina is telling my children that they are not allowed to have breakfast at school. I pay for that breakfast because my children are hungry. The people who run the before care programs know that they are hungry, they used up every snack they had trying to keep them from starving. The people who serve the breakfast know that my children are hungry. What is so great about all of this, is that Adam's mother, Ellen James Gadinis, is a fourth grade teacher at Quail Run E... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Friday, December 11, 2009,
In a stunning act of justice, Judge Talamante has neglected to adequately do his job and has pawned off his duties on a parent coordinator! Good job at passing the buck Talamante. To review: My friend, "A" went to court b/c her ex was refusing to let the children talk to her and interfering with her relationship with the children. And no, I know it sounds like Adam James, but it's not. There are more just like him out there! After the hearing to set the trial, in which Talamante told "A" ... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Friday, December 4, 2009,
The other day i was sitting around talking with some girlfriends. One of them is contemplating her relationship with her abusive boyfriend. We were talking about the effect of abuse on the children and my situation and the ramifications for her if she left the relationship. I talked about how I thought there were so many thoughtless people in the world. Why do i say this? Well, because, as I relate my situation to others, they always say the same thing, "Don't you wish that you had never... Continue reading ...
Posted by Lisa Abrams on Tuesday, December 1, 2009,
The parental alienation [syndrome] theorists are fighting hard for its inclusion in the new Diagnostic and Statistic Manual for psychiatry. This makes sense because if it is then considered a valid disorder, the following things can happen:
1. "Treatment" at centers like the Rachel Foundation in Texas and Dr. Randy Rand's center in California can be covered by insurance.
2. Medication can be prescribed to both the offending parent and the child and offered to the court as evidence of mal... Continue reading ...
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About Me
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My children were legally kidnapped on April 4, 2008 with the aid of Judge Pro-Tem Susan Brnovich. They reside with their father, Adam Marc James and attend the elementary school that his mother, Ellen James, teaches at.
My children have no one to turn to for help. Their teachers will tell their father anything and everything they say to them. It dows not matter that teachers are mandatory reporters, because Ellen James is a coworker.
I realize that this fight may take the entire length of my children's youth. I am determined that they know I never gave up, that their children have a better future and that I provide protection against the abuse they suffer from Adam Marc James the only way I can, I make it public and shame him into not abusing them.
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